We live in the age of technology where even an occasional cough goes straight into the Google’s search bar. From utilities to illness, school to university surveys, syndromes to exercise regimen, recipes to home decor; everything is searched about in extensive details.
While everyone researches about their field of interest, what we don’t normally find about are the terrible twos and thrashing threes. I mean, we love to know about the pregnancy milestones being covered and read in detail about post-postpartum depression beforehand, in case it strikes in the near future. We read about ways to tackle the situation that if not gotten hold of might affect our child.
But once the child starts to grow and achieve his milestones, we neglect the part that comes with growing up. Terrible Two’s and thrashing three’s exist for real and internet is flooding with related articles yet us mothers keep on asking about the tantrums our calm child has started to throw suddenly.
The transition from infant to toddler and then to a kid is a crucial part of child development. Apart from physical growth, there are many mental shifts babies undergo. From cot to bed, diapers to underpants, being fed and carried to doing it themselves most of the time takes a toll on their emotional side. And then they have to get enrolled in a school. All these factors contribute towards the behavioral changes in children and thus the unlimited tantrums and mood swing at home and in public. Their language and motor skills are still developing and haven’t fully formed yet which makes them frustrated at times. They demand attention at times by doing against what is instructed and it requires wit to tackle this ambiguity. Social gatherings have a different meaning to them now where they will either be the type of a dive-in kid or a shy one initially. This is their exploration age and for us a kind of revelation age about their interests and kind of nature.
What’s important is to make them believe that they can be in charge too. We as parents need to regard their choices and involve them in petty decisions about their clothes or what kind of slippers they want. We need to assure them that they are still loved and pampered as they have always been. We need to pay attention to their cues that might reflect hunger, sleep deprivation, tiredness, getting bored which they can’t easily configure on their own and communicate about. And of course, research research research- as much as we can about these phases in child’s growth.