Parents, teachers, even peers, often knowingly and unknowingly put undue pressure on students to do well in academics. With exams coming up, many students are under immense stress. Asadullah Khan seems to be one such student who, unfortunately, succumbed to the strain and it took his life.
According to the Facebook page, Karachi Walay, Asad had been in the middle of his mock exams and apparently after a mock that didn’t go so well, he suffered from a brain hemorrhage which proved fatal.
This is what the post said,
“17-year-old child, namely Asadullah Khan, died due to brain haemorrhage as he was in stress just because his mock didn’t go well, and that’s what led to his condition deteriorating. Don’t push yourselves too hard. Nothing is more precious than your life is. Mocks, CIEs, or any other exam, just give your best and if it’s not enough, then don’t worry! Life goes on. Things fall into place. Nobody cares about your grades over your life, nobody. As important as grades may be, they DO NOT define you. One must understand that. I can’t imagine what his parents must be going through. May he rest in peace and may Allah give his family the strength to deal with this loss.”
In August 2017, another mother came forward on a TV channel alleging that her daughter had a heart attack due to school pressure and academic stress. She blamed the school for putting undue pressure and for demoralising her (otherwise lively and hardworking) daughter every step of the way.
ایک سکول نے معصوم بچی کی کیسے جان لی لے؟؟ بچی کی ماں خود بتاتے ہوئے آبدیدہ ہوگئیں
Posted by Now News on Wednesday, August 23, 2017
However, it is not just schools that can be blamed for this level of competitiveness which results in students pushing themselves too hard. Parents often compare their children to other students, sometimes absolutely unfairly since each child has his/her own strengths and weaknesses. Such comparisons can often make children extremely anxious and as this case shows, can be life-taking as well.
Parents and teachers need to be extra careful and emphasise to their children/students that while striving for high goals is indeed, a good thing; nothing matters more than their mental and physical health and well-being. It is essential for both, parents and teachers to recognise each child’s capability and skill level and push them accordingly. Otherwise, cases like Asad’s will undoubtedly become more frequent.
We pray for Asad’s family in this time of grief and hope that our educational system and society takes this case as a lesson to avoid such losses in the future.